How Gratitude Changes Your Attitude

Can taking the time to be grateful each day positively impact your life? See how you can positively affect your life with an Attitude of #Gratitude.

#SoBlessed

I want to go ahead and say right now that I may be guilty of occasionally making fun of the #SoBlessed folks out there.  You know the ones I’m talking about.  The women that are always posting on social media pretending proclaiming their blessedness.  Admittedly, being the cynical turd that I am; I believe, strike that, I KNOW that some of it is just for show.  I mean if you come in mad at the world and then pose for a picture where you look happy as a clam.  We all know that you’re faking it.  So, bye, Felicia!  Again, I am a hugely cynical person and I’m working on it, but I’m not the only one who took notice.   *Ahem*.  But that’s none of my business, now let me get back to my tea.  I’m sorry that I am still laughing about it and I know I need to get right with the Lord.

#SuperExtraBlessed

Sure, it may be excessive and warrants an eye roll every now and again, but are they all wrong?  Think about it, it is statistically impossible that every single post/person is faking it.  There are some women that are truly grateful and their attitude of gratitude shows in their every day lives.  And as much as I want to be a turd about their happiness, I believe that they may be on to something fantastic.

Can taking the time to be grateful each day positively impact your life? See how you can positively affect your life with an Attitude of #Gratitude.

I have done a lot of reading in my downtime about gratitude and the hundreds of gratitude posts that pop up this time of year.  I’m sure you all know that the start of November is often the start of the 30 Days of Gratitude posts on Facebook.  I enjoy them and I try to “like” or comment on each one.  Though, it’s a shame that the only time most people focus on being grateful or thankful is at year’s end.  I am 100% guilty of this as well.  For my regular readers, you know that we had some bad news mid-November so I’ve needed each and every one of them this year.  I need to focus on my own gratitude so I can try to see past some of the bad.

Gratitude-Schmatitude

Gratitude by definition is the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness.  Thank you, Google.  If you want to bum yourself out, click the drop down box below the definition and check the “mentions”.  There you can see the use of the word drops significantly.  How in the world can the entire internet population stop being grateful?  Maybe I’m just reading it wrong.  Or at least I hope I’m reading it wrong.

On a wholly serious note, it is ridiculously easy to be ungrateful or to lose sight of goal of having gratitude.  For example, I am guilty of saying (in the past week) that I’ve put in my hard work/effort and I have earned it.  And for clarification, I was not referring to a job where I get paid for completed tasks.  There should be no expected compensation for my efforts.  Do you know what that is on the most basic level?  Entitlement.  And that is an absolute smack in the face.  Honestly reflecting back on my mindset and thoughts has been an eye-opening experience.  I am now and have been an entitled, little brat.  The world at large does not owe me da-diddly-doodly-squat.  There is not a soul that owes me something for anything that I may have done.  Sadly, there are an awful lot of people who do not recognize these revelations.

But it cuts me deep to admit that I am ungrateful and I am selfish.  And I know in my heart that I do not want my daughter to grow up with this mindset.  I get where it comes from, years and years of working and looking forward to compensation for that hard work.  But outside of a work environment, that is not how it works at all.  So I am working on changing.

Why Gratitude?

The world is full of bad things so why bother being grateful at all?  Well, focusing on the good shifts your mindset away from hyper-focusing on the bad.  Of course, sometimes the bad things are still there, but for me, it changes my outlook of them.  Instead of seeing my recent miscarriage as solely a loss, I am beginning to see it as a lesson in being humble.  I’m sure not everyone would see it this way, but I took my fertility and uneventful first pregnancy for granted.  I am truly humbled by the experience and truly grateful of my Squeak now.  In fact, in retrospection, I am trying to look for the good in most of my past, painful events.

Can taking the time to be grateful each day positively impact your life? See how you can positively affect your mental health with an Attitude of #Gratitude.

Every single day, we wake up with the choice of whether we want to be grateful and present in this world.  So why not choose to be grateful, appreciative, and happy?  Once you (and I) recognize that to some degree it is a conscious choice, that we can choose to be happy, why wouldn’t we?  Now don’t get me wrong, this isn’t a quick fix remedy for everyone.  And I am most certainly NOT saying you should just be happy and not depressed (because mental health is not a joking matter).

Gratitude in Practice

But in your day-to-day life you can choose to make small changes that will have massive impact.  Just try it for a few days.  Take a few minutes to reflect on what you do have to be grateful for.  I don’t live in a mansion, but I have a sturdy roof over my head.  I’m not winning any popularity contests, but those in my life who love me, love me truly and for who I am.  We may not be rich, but we are wealthy in ways that money cannot buy.  So what can be done to help focus the mind on the positive?

Gratitude Lists

Everyday write down, or say aloud, three things that you’re grateful for.  A lot of other people suggest doing this in the morning before anything else.  This will set the tone of your day before you’ve even started.  Easy peasy, right?

Gratitude Journal

As a Christmas present to myself I’ve purchased a Gratitude Journal for Moms.  Granted, this may be cheating because it gives daily prompts to help the writing process, but I feel that I need to start somewhere.  If that’s not your style, you can always purchase a pretty journal and write your own thoughts of thankfulness.

Can taking the time to be grateful each day positively impact your life? See how you can positively affect your life with an Attitude of #Gratitude.

Grateful Inspirations

These are some of the blog posts that have helped to inspire me to lead a more grateful life.

  1. Phaytea’s Pulse – she is in the middle of a 31 Days of Gratitude Challenge so be sure to check all of her posts.
  2. Reina + Co – How to Be Successful by Cultivating Gratitude
  3. The Quiet Mind – How to Welcome Gratitude Into Life
  4. Katie Wilkinson Creative – Why I Write a Gratitude Journal (and you should too)

Can taking the time to be grateful each day positively impact your life? See how you can positively affect your life with an Attitude of #Gratitude.

 

Talk is Cheap

“Gratitude, like faith, is a muscle.  The more you use it, the stronger it grows, and the more power you have to use it on behalf.  If you do not practice gratefulness, its benefaction will go unnoticed, and your capacity to draw on its gifts will be diminished.  To be grateful is to find blessings in everything.  This is the most powerful attitude to adopt, for there are blessings in everything.

– Alan Cohen

This post is a bit earlier than I had originally intended, but I am in need of a shift in focus.  Being more grateful is one of my upcoming resolutions.  I have enough in my life.  WE have enough as Hubs’ (who is a far greater cynic than I) pointed out recently.  I can be very grateful and I intend to be more positive.

 

“Choosing to smile even when you are having a bad day doesn’t mean you are being fake. It means you are choosing to focus on all the reasons you have to be thankful instead of the reasons you have to be stressed.”

– Dave Willis

For those of you who are actually-factually, genuinely grateful people, how do you express your gratitude?  Do you, yourselves, journal or write lists?  Is your gratitude shown during daily prayers?  How do you keep yourself motivated on the hard days?  And for any people who are wanting to hop aboard the Gratitude Express, what are your reasons?

 

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22 Replies to “How Gratitude Changes Your Attitude”

  1. This year I have adopted a similar attitude. It’s been a tough tough year but I feel like I can really see myself grow!!

    http://chausadventure.com

    1. I feel like I’m super late to the party, but I’m pumped to be here.

  2. Such an important post, and all so true! Being thankful and showing gratitude can take you a long way, and make you feel so much better 🙂

  3. I was raised with very little in a not good environment so I am very grateful for the life I now have. I thank God every day for the life I have because I know it comes from Him. It is hard to be grateful when going through a rough time but I always think back to the people that didn’t lose their life on 9/11 due to one issue or another that kept them out of work that day. A car wreck, a missed train, a sick child can mean God saved you from something worse and there is always something worse that could have happened. I guess it is as simple as a change in perspective.

  4. I’ve also been all about the positive outlook and trying to find the good in every situation. I love the quote by Tony Robbins: Trade expectation for appreciation and your life changes instantly!

    Tadeja xx
    happynami.com

  5. Love that quote at the end by Dave Willis. Having some self-control over the expressions of your feelings doesn’t mean you’re fake. It’s a sign of maturity. We’re not doomed to be victims of our feelings – carried along by them like a clam on the tide.

    1. Yes and it is an amazing testament to how your mindset can affect both your mood and your tone for the day. It was one of my favorites.

  6. I like to stop myself when I’m about to have a stress meltdown and remind myself of all the things I’m grateful for. It helps put my problems into perspective.

    1. Yes! This is definitely not a strong suit of mine, but that is an excellent way to look at things. I’ll have to put that to practice soon!

  7. Neely Moldovan says: Reply

    I love this and its so true! Being gracious is something we all need to do!

    1. I’m late to the party, but I’m definitely here now.

  8. Thanks for sharing! I do think it’s important to keep the things you are grateful for in mind, especially during stressful times like the holidays can be.

  9. This is so important! We often complain and forget all those things we should be grateful for.
    I loved the quotes throughout the post!

  10. Hahah, this was such a food for thought but in a fun way.
    This is something I’ve been working on as well & it’s glad to hear that I’m not the only one being cynical 😀

    1. I can give up lots of things, but I refuse to give up being cynical and snarky. We have to have some joy in life. Haha.

  11. I have been thinking about doing a gratitude journal. Sometimes it is easy to lose track of the beautiful blessings we all have. I am pretty certain I am doing it now. I am grateful for your post.

    1. It is entirely too easy to focus on the negative instead of the positive. I’m hopeful that with practice it will become habit and I’ll be happier each day.

  12. Such an inspirational reading! Gratitude can make all the difference and sometimes just one simple, positive thought causes the most powerful reaction!

  13. A lovely post, I always enjoy reading optimistic and inspirational writings like yours. Thank you for sharing 🙂

  14. So glad you gave some book suggestions! I will definetly look into them! Thanks for sharing! Great post!

  15. Gratitude is the key to happiness. Thanks for the post haha.

    1. I’m so glad that you enjoyed it, thank you!

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