Happy New Year!
Oh my goodness! Can you guys believe that 2017 is finally over? If I had two words to describe 2017 they would be: dumpster fire. If I had four words to describe 2017 they would be: dumpster fire shit show. Should there be need of six words… you guys catch my drift. Of course not all of 2017 was bad, in fact, some of my best moments to date occurred in 2017. I spent my year at home with the most beautiful little girl in the world. That same little girl celebrated her first birthday. Plus, I escaped the year with only minor injuries and my nearest and dearest are in good(ish) health. However, this entire past year just seemed to be unnecessarily stressful for most of my family and close friends.
It has been a rough one, but we made it to 2018!!! That means that we all have a clean state to start the year anew. And that brings me to my next point:
It’s a New Year! You’re a New Person!
Isn’t that just terrible? Seriously, I hate the phrase and make fun of it at every opportunity. Let’s make sure you put a ridiculous amount of undue stress upon yourself immediately after the holidays. Unfortunately, I did at one time ascribe to the adage – but now – it makes me eye roll so hard. I’m talking to the extent that I give myself a headache, but we all need to be a bit extra sometimes. Okay, I’m finished being dramatic. Now don’t get me wrong, I am all for resolutions and I am all for positive thinking, but being a whole new you? THAT has become the joke to me.
I mean I get it, there is no better time to start than a new beginning. Be it starting a diet on Monday or going to the gym January 1st. There is a bit of a connection with starting at the start, right? Well, from my point of view that is part of the reason people hate Mondays. And the first of the month. AND New Year’s Resolutions. But I digress. So many years I have gotten gung-ho about hyping myself up for a new me in the new year and I get let down. Even in the years where I manage to keep myself on track; I still let myself down because I’ve not attained the unattainable goal of perfection that I think I need. Maybe it is just me, but every single year I would get this picture of who I thought I needed to be. Regardless of my resolutions, there was always this shadow of a girl that I thought the world would rather see.
As an adult I recognize that a lot of that was/is my own insecurities. Sure, there are some habits and idiosyncrasies that may be less than desirable, but I’m not that terrible of a person. At least, I don’t think so. And definitely not to the point where I feel I need to completely change who I am as a person. Or even have to convey this perfect persona so the world likes me. So this year, I am digging my feet in and refusing to get lost in those negative thoughts. By golly, it has taken me more than 30 years, but I am finally accepting myself in this body, as I am.
This year there will be no “New Me” instead I am aiming to make changes that help me grow as a person. I am not focusing on being a whole new person, I just want to be my best self. These are not New Year’s Resolutions, but more like “Happy Sami” goals. But I so long as I make consistent, positive changes I’ll be happy. And if you’re thinking I’m sounding like an asshole now, please forgive my being jaded about the situation. If the New Year, New You works for you, then own it and slay your goals. And when you’re done drop my a line so we can celebrate your amazing victory!
After tons of thought (and lists), I have come up with goals for my blog, my home, and my personal life. Below are my personal goals. I’m planning on sharing the house and blog goals later on.
FYI, I’m using the term resolutions, but these are NOT just New Year’s Resolutions. I will sweat the proper nomenclature when it’s not 2 a.m.
Be Authentic – Wholly Authentic
In a world where the authenticity (hello Photoshop) is constantly in question, I want to be my most genuine self. Sure, I know that I can be a bit abrasive and “aggressive”. Apparently most of the “aggression” is in my delivery. I do make a genuine effort to be mindful of what I say and how I speak, but it is a work in progress. I am truly tired of this idea that I have to be ________ to be well liked. So what if I’m not thin enough, or nice enough, or preppy enough, or whatever. It is not the end of the world if there are those that dislike me for whatever fill-in-the-blank-reason. At the end of the day it is their problem, not mine. My goal for this year is to fully accept myself as I am and to not get caught up in the thoughts, opinions, and gossip of others. Should you be the victim of spiteful gossip, just remember:
Continue my Journey to Health
I am beyond stoked to announce that I am down 30 lbs since January of 2017! That’s right THIRTY! I don’t think I’ve ever managed to lose that much weight in a year’s time ever before in my life. My weight loss has been achieved by minor changes in diet and slightly increased activity. You can read about my journey here. This isn’t the aforementioned gung-ho attempt to drop a ton of weight. These are slow, but consistent and healthy lifestyle changes that are making me healthier in general. If I were to go by my BMI I have gone from being obese to overweight. Of course, by the BMI measurement I could lose another 25-63 lbs and get into the normal range.
Let me just sidenote here that I think I would look skeletal if I lost 60 lbs more. To do so would require me to not only to lose body fat but also substantial muscle mass. This is why I absolutely loathe BMI as a measurement of health. I use it as an example because it is still a widely accepted measurement. If you want a better measurement of health, see your doctor instead.
Practice Gratitude – DAILY!
My most recent post about gratitude has been one of my most popular to date. It is very reassuring to feel like I am not the only one who benefits from a more positive outlook on life. Even though I do feel better when I count my blessings I am still not the most consistent. So as a Christmas present I bought myself a Gratitude Journal for Moms that has weekly writing prompts. And so far I am loving it along with the beautiful Serenity Journal that my MIL got me. I know that we’re only 2 weeks into January, but I have kept up. You could say that things are kind of serious. (Y’all I’m sorry, it’s the middle of the night and I think that I have jokes). If you’re interested in purchasing the Gratitude Journal for Moms, it is available for sale in my Facebook Group.
Be a Clutter Crusher
One of my favorite quotes in recent years is, “My housekeeping style is best described as, ‘There appears to have been a struggle'”. I may be a million things, but a power housekeeper I am not. Most of my days are spent chasing two almost two years olds. Some days I have to sit back in awe of how much destruction they can manage. I’ll admit that in the beginning I did try to keep up with the pace of the tod-nadoes, but that was an exercise in futility. It is far easier to just hop on the floor and make a bigger mess with them. Sure it is tons of fun for the babes, but it stresses me out at day’s end when I see the mayhem.
Predictably, things got even worse after Thanksgiving, but no more! My goal is to stay proactive in my housekeeping. Sure this means that I am back to running around picking up toys, but I am also using this as a learning experience for the kiddos. They know that we all pick up the toys before nap time. I’m sure that these tasks will become easier as the get even older. I can also happily report that I have not once (yet) forgotten a load of clothes to sour in the washer! I still hate cleaning the kitchen though.
Maintain my Focus
I liken myself to a squirrel. Easily distracted and sometimes indecisive. But this year I want to be the squirrel from Ice Age. I want to be able to hyper-focus of my to-do lists and knock those jokers out. I have no wish to be obsessive because that takes all of the fun out of life, but I need to be more task oriented. In the same vein, I need to work on being less of a procrastinator. Truthfully, my best work is often achieved two hours before my deadline. It doesn’t need to be said that procrastination can lead to negative stress and I want less stress in my life.
Ultimately for me this means that I need to take more effort at night to plan my following day. There may be some folks saying, “duh Sam, you’re a little late to the party” and they would be right. This is the goal that I am most concerned about
failing not being as successful as I’d like. Forward progress is still my goal.
This is 100% going to be my year. I am super excited that good things are coming and I hope for the same for all of my readers! Is anyone else going along with the non-resolution theme this year? If so, what do you have planned to make 2018 your best year yet?